53. From Rupture to Resilience: Nervous System Secrets with Tannaz Hosseinpour

Why does emotional regulation feel so hard, and how can it transform your relationships?
In this episode, I’m chatting with the brilliant Tannaz Hosseinpour from Minutes on Growth about one of the most overlooked keys to healthy relationships: nervous system regulation. We dive into why grounding yourself can change the way you connect with your partner, how to navigate tough conversations, and what it really looks like to build resilience through rupture and repair. Plus, Tannaz shares her personal journey from family mediation to coaching and why simplifying big concepts is her superpower.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel like conversations with your partner hit a wall, no matter how hard you try.
• Arguments often leave you emotionally drained and stuck in fight-or-flight mode.
• You’re curious about tools to help you stay calm and grounded, even during conflict.
• You’ve wondered how relationship coaches actually handle disagreements in their own lives.
• You’re ready to see why nervous system regulation is the game-changer your relationship needs.

About Our Guest:

Tannaz Hosseinpour is a relationship coach, breathwork guide, and therapist in training dedicated to helping people build healthy, secure relationships through science-backed tools and holistic wellness practices. With a background in dispute resolution law, she shifted her focus to proactive relationship coaching, guiding individuals and couples to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and foster deep self-connection. She is the founder of Minutes on Growth, where she shares insights on relational wellness, and is currently working on her book, Shifting Reality, which explores the mind-body-soul connection in creating fulfilling relationships. 

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Jenn Noble

Hello, and welcome to Speak Honest! I am your host and certified relationship coach, Jennifer Noble. It has been my passion for over a decade, to help women like you heal what’s been holding you back from having the relationships you deserve. Are you struggling with a relationship where you can’t seem to voice your emotions, needs, and boundaries without having it blow up in your face? Then you have found the right podcast my friend. Get ready for practical tips, empowering truths, and honest conversations. Now, let’s dive in.

Jenn Noble

Hello, everyone. And welcome back to another episode of Speak Honest. I am Jenn Noble, and I am so excited that on today's episode, I actually have a special guest. I have Tannaz with Minutes on Growth with me talking about nervous system regulation and all that she does in her coaching practice. Now, Tannaz is a certified life coach specializing in relationships.

Both with oneself and with others, as well as conscious manifestation. She has an academic background in conflict resolution law and counseling psychotherapy, and she combines these diverse skills to empower individuals to create meaningful connections and manifest the desired reality. My conversation with Tannaz was absolutely fabulous.

I was so excited to get to have her on the podcast. So all of you who are really listening can see and hear all of the different things that I teach from different sources. It's so important that you get your information from different sources. Please do not just listen to me. And, you know, I will say this all the time, but I want you to listen to it in someone else's voice, in someone else’s cadence, with someone else’s language. The way that they talk about things and the way that I talk about things will be similar and yet different.

And it's this way in which we can rewire our brains to really start understanding these concepts. So in my conversation today, I really dived deep with Tannaz about nervous system regulation. Now, you know, we just talked about that a couple episodes ago and, and how to really, regulate, why it's so important to learn how to ground and anchor yourself and where emotional dysregulation comes from.

And all of that we dive into in different ways with my conversation with Tannaz. So before we get started on the episode, I did want to remind you that if you are struggling with anything in your life, if you are being emotionally dysregulated, if you're having an argument or a fight with your husband or your boyfriend or your partner.

I want you to know that you can come and get a free coaching session with me on the podcast. So in addition to interviews and just little learning lessons that I do, I also do coaching calls. And the great thing about the live coaching calls on the podcast is that it allows for you, the listener to hear someone else going through something that might be quite similar to you.

In fact, if you go back and listen to some of them, you might get a lot out of those conversations because you might hear yourself in their questions. And when you listen from an outside perspective, then your body and your brain, they're able to understand it more. Because when you are the one with the problem, you're way too close to it, right?

You can't see the forest through the trees. That's the whole point. And so I want to let you know that you can come on the podcast with me right here and get a free coaching call. So you come on, we go through maybe a situation or a specific circumstance that is going on that you're struggling with and you need a little bit of help.

You just need that coach to help you get through it, give you some tangible, practical, pieces of advice that you can use afterwards. And that way you get help as well as helping the other women in the community that would get to hear your story. It's so impactful. It's so powerful. And it's one of my favorite things that I do here on the podcast.

So if you are interested, scroll down to the show notes and click on the link for applying to go on a coaching call, you'll fill out a couple of questions.  And if we think you're a good fit, then I'll send you a link to schedule a time with me and we'll get to chat and we'll get to know each other and it's really great and give you a little, you know, I give you some goodies and some thank you gifts on the, on the other side of that.

But mainly I just want you to do it because you think that this would be a great opportunity for you to get some help that you need. So if that sounds like you, scroll on down to the show notes, click on the link, come jump on the podcast with me. Let's get you the help that you need. And for now, I hope that you enjoy my conversation with Tannaz. 

Jenn Noble

Hello everyone. I am so excited to get to talking to our guest today. I have the beautiful Tannaz on with me and Tannaz, I would love for you to tell us a little bit about yourself.

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

Hi, Jenn. It's so lovely to be on. So I am a relationship coach. I am training to be a psychotherapist and my goal has always been to help couples build healthier relationships with themselves and then just help individuals help build healthy relationships with every area of their life, whether it's with themselves, their friends, their family members, their co-workers.

And I guess it all comes from my background, which was in law and dispute resolution law and then family mediation. So I was on the other side of the equation, helping people get separated and divorced. And I was like, this, it just doesn't make sense. How do we start off, you know, with butterflies, you know, feeling so in love and now we're fighting over who gets this plate or who gets material objects and you know so I was like something needs to change I want to learn about relationships I want to kind of get on the proactive side of it and I you know after seven eight years of uni and law school and all of that, kind of did a 180, went into coaching when you know specializing in relationships and decided to even take it a step further and so just completing my third master's degree in counseling psychology.

Jenn Noble 

That all just sounds so fantastic. And I, I love hearing how you have two different sides of this. You've got to see couples at their worst, right? When they're just fighting over the little things. Like you said, who gets this cup? Who gets, you know, this blanket or something like that. And you see this happening and you're wondering, where is this breaking down? And so I'd love to hear that. So you go on the flip side and you're like, let me get into this coaching world. I love that so much. And three masters that is fantastic. I, myself we were talking earlier going back to go get my masters and it is not an easy feat. So, you know what? I would love to hear a little bit about, because I know I have a lot of listeners who are in this world as well–lots of relationship coaches. I come from a whole host of them, in fact, we have a whole Facebook group together where we all trained in the Integrated Attachment Theory. It's an amazing community. I just love coaches. Tell me a little bit, for you, about what that journey has been like getting into relationship coaching, trying to actually run your business, do all of that stuff and still keep learning and growing. What's that been like for you?

Tannaz Hosseinpour

If I'm going to be honest, it's something that naturally progressed over time. And so when I decided that I didn't want to be on the fighting side of relationships, on you know, the separation side, I was living in Dubai at that time and I was running a book club. And one of the girls said, she also had a background in law, and she said, why don't we go into coaching? I was like, I don't even know what that is. What is that?

And so I went on Instagram and typed coach. I still remember and I was like, okay, sounds interesting and I've always been studying psychology and spirituality. I was like, okay, and I'm my archetype is a teacher archetype. I love to teach and just simplify complex concepts. So I was like, that's something I can do. I can definitely use these tools to kind of help people cultivate healthy relationships. And so started the program and then you know I started taking on clients this was around seven years ago and because again I love to study and so I was just always studying, always teaching, always studying, always teaching, and you know the business just grew on its own. I know that sounds a little bit… it had its fair share of challenges.

But I think because it just feels so aligned with what I like to do, and that is to teach and to simplify concepts and to kind of be a non-judgmental, rearview mirror for you, it didn't feel like work. It just felt like serving and doing something that felt in alignment with my values. And just along the way, like exactly as you said, connecting with other coaches. Brainstorming together, learning from one another. And then there's the whole business side of like learning marketing, learning sales, and kind of wearing like all these different hats throughout the day until you grow enough to have a team.

Jenn Noble

Yes, having that, but the entrepreneurial spirit, it has to be strong in a coach. What I love to hear about that is I love how you also talk about the community of coaches because you're also someone who's getting your master's, you're going into psychotherapy and coaching and counseling, two very different things. You know, being a therapist and being a coach whilst you can be both, you know, and eventually I hope to be one, you know, with what it is that you're doing, potentially you could have both hats as well but we know that they're very different. Tell me what it is that you love about coaching and why you never jumped all the way into the therapist world.

Tannaz Hosseinpour

I think what I loved about coaching at the beginning was how tools oriented it was. It's like, okay, here are the tools, implement them. And I want to say this, I think the therapy world is really evolving and changing. And we're seeing that more in the therapeutic space as well is, A, allowing the client to be the expert, which goes against previous…

Jenn Noble 

Yes, it's always I, I know all the answers. Now you must listen to me. Very Freudian, right?

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

Yeah, so I think now with time therapy is catching up and again, the client is becoming the expert, which is great. But what I loved about coaching was that, is the client was the expert and you were kind of just a rear view mirror and providing the tools and kind of being like the supporter, the cheerleader, holding people accountable. And again, just allowing them to lead and you're just there to kind of support.Which I'm seeing now in the therapeutic role and that's why I was like, okay, I would love to even have more tools at my disposal to share and be of more service.

Jenn Noble

I completely agree. I think definitely having a balance of the two, because I think we all also know a lot of quote unquote coaches out there that have no modalities, no experience, nothing, and they're just out there trying to sell their services. Right. So like anything we do our due diligence and maybe if we have a mix of both, because yeah, there's some great therapists out there now. And that's what I want to do. I want to become a psychologist over time, both to kind of have that weight, that research behind my belt, but also to be able to help people you know, in ways that you can't as a coach, but having that coaching in there. So I'd love that you're doing that so much. Now you said something earlier, which I love to hear, which is you're very good at simplifying information. What a beautiful, beautiful tool to have. One of the things that I know you do really well is nervous system regulation. Is that right?

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Yes.

Jenn Noble

So I would love for you, I love nervous system regulation. And also I talk so much.

You should ask my clients. They're like, Oh my God, Jenn, slow down. What are you talking about? I need to get it all out in one time. So now that I have you on, I would love for you to simplify to anyone listening, really, why nervous system regulation is so important and anything else that you want to share about it.

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

Yeah, definitely. So, I think just first about understanding what the nervous system is. So we have the parasympathetic and the sympathetic. One is rest and digest. So it's the state we want to be in when we wake up. It's the state we want to be in when we're eating, when we're sleeping. And then we have fight or flight, the sympathetic. And there is this misconception that we never want to be in that, which isn't true. It’s when there's danger, that's actually the state that helps us survive. And it also, being relatively sympathetic when we're working out, when we're at the gym, when we really want to have that elevated heart rate. So they both serve us. It becomes problematic when we are in one state for too long. If we're constantly in the state of fight or flight, which is the state of either I want to fight you back or I flight, I want to run away. Our body starts to experience perhaps chronic illness. It starts to go into freeze mode. And we're unable to live life intentionally because we're constantly in this state of fear and a state of anxiety and the state of overwhelm. Cortisol levels go up, which then cause more stress. And then with that comes a whole plethora of illnesses. So we want to learn how in the simplest ways possible, we can bring ourselves back to a balanced state, to a grounded state, and we can live life from that place of inner peace. And so the breath is one of the easiest ways to get us into that parasympathetic state of rest and digest. One of my favorite ways is whatever you're inhaling for as many seconds, you double that for the exhale. So we can do a two, four, we can do a three, six, inhaling for three, exhaling for six. We can do a four, eight. Whatever you feel comfortable doing, kinda, you'll build your tolerance, your lung capacity's tolerance for that. So breath work is a great way, muscle relaxation is a great way. Taking off your shoes and walking on grass if you don't live in Canada, though, because it's frozen.

Jenn Noble

Right now you would be walking in snow or ice. Yes.

Tannaz Hosseinpour

If you’re lucky enough to be in a warm place, grounding, naming objects around you. So when, you know, when our mind is racing, great way is to count the number, you know, count the trees around you, count the things that you can see. Counting helps us regulate.

So these are just the tools, but why regulate? It's because when we're in a regulated state, we can think better, we process information better, and from a relational standpoint, if couples are not in a regulated state when they are communicating, their mind can't actually process what the other person is saying. And so it's like you're talking to a wall.

There's no purpose to that conversation. You will keep having that conversation until you both are able to come from a regulated state. Only then can your ears actually hear what's being said and for you to actually understand. Because when we're in that dysregulated triggered state, it's all about survival. There is no such thing as a win-win situation. It's no, I need to win this to feel safe. And if I win and you lose, it creates power imbalance in the relationship and that just triggers other issues. So I just went on a whole slide.

Jenn Noble 

Yeah. No, that was beautiful. Thank you so, so much. I actually had just done a podcast a couple episodes before this about emotional regulation and why it's so important, especially in women, how we can sometimes just get so dysregulated that we're just completely shut down. You know, and we talk about the prefrontal cortex and why it all happens. But I love the way you visually explain things. And I think it's so important for people to get the same information from multiple sources because you know, repetition plus emotion, you know, we want to get those neurons firing and wiring together with different voices, different ways of hearing things. So just listening to you, even I was like sitting there being like, oh yeah, that’s such a good way to explain that. I love that so much because yeah, there's no win-win. So there is no, why won't he listen to me? Why isn't he being rational? And I try to explain this to my clients too, my girl, you're not being rational either right now. Do you see this? Do see what's going on? It's not just them.

And so what do you usually recommend for people after they get regulated? So how is it that they're gonna sit there, they'll ground themselves, they'll either do a breathing technique, they'll look around. I love counting colors, it's one of my things. And so then after that, what do you typically recommend for couples?

Tannaz Hosseinpour

It’s when they're coming back to the conversation. So, from, research shows us that when we are physiologically flooded and when we start to feel dysregulated, takes a minimum of 20 minutes for us to regulate. So if you're in that conversation, if you're in conflict and you’re arguing and someone says something, the other gets triggered, there's dysregulation, asking for a timeout and, going your separate ways.

And I really want to mention this asking for a timeout because if you just walk out of the room and you don't tell the person where you're going, especially if the other person has an anxious attachment style, which you know a lot of them talk a lot about, they're going to start to feel really anxious and it's not fair. It's not how we want to treat our partner with respect and you know, with compassion. So kind of just saying timeout.

And having, you know a hand signal or a word, I have couples that use the word apples and they know the word apple comes out, means the conversation goes on a break. And you kind of go your separate ways, like as we talked about breathwork, taking a shower, splashing cold water, rubbing ice cubes on your wrist. I love that. And just when you're ready, and when you're feeling calm and regulated, coming back to the conversation and saying, let's try this again. Right. And if there was a rupture, taking accountability for that. I apologize for my words. Even sometimes my clients will be like, but my intention wasn't to hurt him. Yes. But, impact matters.

Jenn Noble

Exactly.

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Intention is 50% and impact is the other 50. So taking accountability for the impact of our words and setting that intention to repair. I apologize. How can we move forward? I'd love to hear you out. I'd like to understand this better. Help me understand. And just giving that conversation another go. And you know, in a realistic, I also want to set a realistic stage of sometimes with my own partner and I, we have this 10 times in one conversation.

Jenn Noble

Thank you for bringing this up. The whole time I listened to this like, I want to ask her about and help her normalize. That it’s okay to remove yourself from like the same conversation 10 times. So please tell me more.

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

Yes, there have been conversations where I have had to go on a timeout multiple times because it's just such a triggering conversation. It's so sensitive. And when we're triggered, we kind of lose access to part of our brain that knows how to express this better.

My partner and I have been together long enough for him to know that he'll turn around and he'll say, I want to hear you out, but right now it seems like you can't express yourself the way you'd want to. Go for a walk. And be like, ughh, I'll go for a walk.

Jenn Noble 

Don’t tell me what to do. But at the same time, thank you. Yes, I kind of needed that. Yeah.

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

And vice versa. You know, and that's how we grow together as a couple of knowing when to.

Jenn Noble 

Can we stop down on something there because I think it's so important for my listeners to hear what a healthy, secure man sounds like and how he is allowed to help you through something and tell you, girl, go take a walk or something. Right. I love you so much right now, but like, uh-uh, we are not listening to each other. That is actually incredibly healthy, isn't it?

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

So healthy.

Jenn Noble

Mhmm.

Tannaz Hosseinpour

So healthy and so refreshing to see.

Jenn Noble 

Because yeah, having a man be able to say, yeah it is so refreshing. Having, until I met my now husband, I'd either had men that shut down, walk away, or they kind of in their own anxious state give me whatever it is that I want at that moment. My clients and my listeners, they're listening and they've never actually heard a secure man be able to say something like, I wanna listen to you so much, but I'm not feeling heard right now. And so I think either we both need to take a break or you need to go take a walk.

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Yeah, yeah.

Jenn Noble

And that kind of assertiveness, that right there in a relationship can be so beautiful. We can say that back to our partners as well. There's no problem. And probably when he said that, you got a little bit snippy, didn't you?

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Oh yeah, of course.

Jenn Noble

Yeah, he didn't say that thinking that's going to deescalate the situation, but he saw long term, didn't he?

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Yeah.

Jenn Noble

And so, and I love to hear that so, so much. So tell me what that was like for you and then how that brought the two of you back together.

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

I think also something that, you know, allowed me to accept that is knowing, I remember like when my partner and I were getting engaged, my parents pulled me aside and said, listen, respect is the one thing once broken, it's really hard to repair. Don't let it get to any place where, you know, you cross the boundary of respect. Control yourself. And so throughout the years, of course, I'm overall a pretty calm person, but you know, everyone gets triggered and they respond differently. But I knew that, okay, if something happens and you're at that point of breaking, continuously tell yourself, choose better, choose better. And so I had communicated this to my partner as well. And I think that really helps too, is to tell your partner what your triggers are. 

Because when you enter into a relationship, with everyone has a baggage, everyone, and it's so unique, everyone's baggage is so unique. I might get triggered over something that means nothing to my partner and vice versa. So I had shared with him that certain, these are the topics that you know are triggering for me, these are what I'm sensitive on. So in the one argument that I can think of that comes to mind, is when that was said and I felt really aggravated. You know, had he not known, he would have just looked at me and been like, what is wrong with her? Like, why is she reacting this way? Because he had information, insider's information. 

And the Gottman Institute always talks about like love maps and just knowing your partner and being curious with your partner. You know, he was like, you need to take a break. You need to walk away from this conversation. And when he said that, it triggered that same voice in my head, my parents voice and myself, of choose better, going for a walk and coming back and saying, you know, it took a while for me to come back. I'm not going to lie. It took a couple of hours.

Jenn Noble 

Good. Thank you for being so incredibly honest about that. It just, I think it's so important for people to see even us like relationship coaches. Listen to that, but listen to yourself awareness in it. Yes, it can take that long. It's not just 20 minutes. It could take hours. It could take a day. It's so real. Yeah.

Tannaz Hosseinpour 

I mean, you know when you're ready, because I would come back and I'd be like, check your energy. Mmm, no, I still want to like say something mean. So again, I have to like take a step back. And you kind of check yourself over and over again. And someone said many years ago, and it really sat with me, and it was emotional maturity is acting on your values, not on your feelings.

And I was like, okay, if you value respect, if you value compassion, cooperation, you are not going to act on those feelings of anger or whatever it is. So yeah, I kind of had to check myself over and over and over again until I came back to the conversation and I said, you know, I'm ready to try it again. And I explained that, you know, when you said this, it triggered these specific feelings, which I know, I know you're aware of it, but perhaps you don't know the depth of the pain for me. And you know, him taking accountability of, I apologize for the impact of my actions and my words, and for me to apologize for how I had reacted and you know, how, how can we move forward? How can we learn from this? And you know, what worked? Did it work when I told you go for a walk? And just, it's like constant negotiations, I feel like.

Jenn Noble 

It really truly is and it's so so important to hear that these happen within secure relationships because so often we talk about yeah the Gottman concept of like we need rupture and repair in order to build resilience and resilience comes with those many negotiations. Even the question of like hey did me telling you to go for a walk did that actually work or did was that too much because you can say like actually no that was too much not so harsh next time please but the difference what you hear in your voice

And the difference what you hear and your energy and your whole vibe as you're talking. I, and I really hope people can understand this is I don't hear any judgment Tannaz, and it's making my heart smile because you're just talking. You're like, yeah, I was really upset. I was, I was really triggered. Checked in with myself. Nope. Cause you went from like a 10 out of 10 triggered. You can kind of almost tell. Right. And then you just kept checking in. You came back. You're like, Nope, I'm at a eight. So let me go back. Wait, hold on. I'm at a six, but there's no judgment. There's no shame, there's no guilt,there's no, shouldn't be feeling this way. I should be over this by now. This is a problem, you know, or he's the problem or I'm the problem and this is never going to work and he doesn't love me. And, you know, I'm a mistake. All of these beliefs, if we let them in during our big emotional feelings, they just hold us down even further. But look how you were just able to work through it, come up and out of it. And that right there is, is it's just, it's so beautiful.

And how do you feel now with you being able to do all this nervous system regulation? It's in your own relationship. And how is it making you feel now to be able to share this with so many other people?

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Oh wow. Honestly, I feel like...

I would use the word expansive because healthy relationships weren't modeled to me growing up. And I had an extremely avoidant attachment style. I mean, I pursued dispute resolution law. So you can imagine what my internal feelings were that, you know, that fighter in me and like going into family mediation, even though it was mediation, but still that fighting energy. And so to be able to do a 180 and stop entertaining dynamics that weren't aligned with, I would say, my values, my lifestyle, the vision I had for my future. And knowing enough to say, I don't know how to have a healthy relationship, I think that also takes a lot of courage to be like.

Because we, mean, listen, we all love our parents and our parents always are doing the best that they can with the level of consciousness that they had, with the resources that they had. And both realities can coexist. You can love your parents, you can love your guardians and still know that they didn't model healthy relationships and that's okay. And to get to that place, I'm like, wanna learn. I wanna learn how to communicate. I want to feel that safety and that closeness and getting to a place where you do finally feel it. A, it's like, it's so possible. So, that itself makes you feel warm. And B, to be able to share that is like, I don't want people to think, because sometimes I love to go on Instagram and read comments and like, on reels about relationships and be like, it doesn't exist. Like, good men don't exist. All men cheat. I'm like, that was me.

That was me like literally like seven, eight years ago. That's exactly how I thought. And so to be able to change that narrative for myself and knowing that, okay, if I decide to have a family, when I decide to have family, their narrative is gonna be different.

Jenn Noble

I love that so much. Such a, such a beautiful place to wrap this up, Tannaz. Oh my goodness, it is to change the narrative and that it is possible and that, we can do this relationship thing, even though I never thought it was possible either. I could tell if Tannaz and I can do it, I'm telling you out there, you could totally do this, too. Now, tell us, Tannaz, where can people find you? Where can they learn more and get these big, massive topics simplified more?

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Yeah, definitely. So I'm on all platforms at Minutes on Growth. So minutes and then O-N growth on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, website. There's actually a free ebook that I have on my website on 11 tools for nervous system regulation. So you can just download it. These are super simple tools. I actually have videos of some of the tools on my Instagram just to kind of show you how it is. But really if we can just get...

One message that I could leave is if we can get proactive with these tools, so like we do them on a regular basis, we kind of expand that window of tolerance so that, you know, when life's inevitable challenges show up, whether they're in our relationship or in our professional life, we are able to respond from a more grounded place and navigate it with a little bit more grace and ease.

Jenn Noble 

Aw, so beautiful. Thank you so, so much for coming on the show. I hope everyone goes and they check out everything and everyone knows how important it is. I think that you need to get a coach out there. You need to get someone that's on your side, someone that resonates with who you are and what you need and whatever that looks like. If that looks like myself, if that looks like Tannaz, if you're needing someone else, if you're needing someone with a different personality or you're looking for a male relationship coach, whatever it is, you can reach out to me. I'll help you find someone. That's what is most important here because, you know, all boats rise with the tide, right? If we all start healing our nervous system regulation, then honestly, we don't have to work so hard to work on ours because hopefully someone else is also nervous and nervously regulated around us, too. It's a win win win, everybody. It works out so well. Thank you so much again for coming on the show, Tannaz. And I hope to be able to speak with you later.

Tannaz Hosseinpour

Thank you Jenn, it was a pleasure.

Jenn Noble

 Well, I hope you all enjoyed that conversation as much as I did with Tannaz. I just think that she is such a lovely person and I love getting to chat with her and I loved her story about her argument with her partner. What a beautiful, real moment to really get to see that even us relationship coaches, we struggle in our relationships.

When you become secure, it doesn't mean that you never have arguments anymore. It means you work through them. Remember, I talk a lot about how we need rupture and repair in order to build resilience in the relationship. And that's exactly what happened between Tannaz and her partner. They got in some sort of disagreement.

There was a disconnection, a rupture that happened. She needed a couple hours to calm down. And when she came back, they respected each other, to listen to each other, to understand each other, to hear each other. And then that built the repair which eventually built the resilience in the relationship and it's so so beautiful and I just want to remind you that if you are struggling with any sort of rupture in your relationship, you want to jump on the podcast with me.

I would love to have you on. I would love to give you a free coaching call so that way we can get you the help that you need. Jump down to the show notes. There should be a link down there that says apply for a coaching call with Jenn. Click on that link and come jump on the podcast with me and help yourself and help out all the other women in the community. That gets so much support from these coaching calls. Now, I hope you all have a beautiful week. I will speak to you next time. Take care.   

Jenn
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